Words To Get Your Ex Back
Are there really words to get your ex back? Maybe. If you have been terrorizing your ex with phone calls, text messages, or just turning up at the same places they hang around, then you have probably figured out that these tactics are not working. In fact, you may be entering the “nuisance” zone as far as your ex is concerned.
So, what else can you do? Take a deep breath and let your body relax, because I’m going to give you a tip that can start to smooth things over with your ex and so you can begin the process of getting your ex back.
You need to communicate with your ex. But NOT over the phone OR by text message.
Try a simple, hand written letter. It’s not going to be long, so don’t worry if you haven’t written an essay since high school. What you want to communicate in your letter is a tone of cool calmness…not freaked out anger, blame, bitterness or self pity. None of these attitudes are cool, and they are actually very unattractive, right?
So, let’s set out what you are going to put in this letter:
1. Let your ex know that you are (now)okay with the break up.
2. Agree that it was the right thing to do. (I know this goes against everything your mind and heart is screaming right now, but trust me, you NEED to say this…and say it calmly and rationally.)
3. If you did something “bad ” like cheat, (or let down all the tires on their car after the breakup…I hope you didn’t!) apologize briefly. (key being briefly…just say “sorry for…”). Again, don’t go into long explanations or details.
4. Tell them something really great happened in your life and you would like to tell them about it sometime. (key, not ’soon’ or ‘next week’ but ’sometime’…this leaves the door ajar for future comminication without pressuring them into a time frame.) Also, their curiosity will be aroused wondering what it is that happened. If you can’t think of anything great, then make something up…just something little like winning a raffle at work or at your brother’s sports club, etc.
5. Let them know that you want to give them time to themselves for a while. This can give them a huge sigh of relief if you have been constantly calling or texting them. It also puts you in a more undestanding and reasonable light…which is much more attractive!
6. Lastly, close your little letter by saying “Maybe at some point we can be friends.” Again, this leaves the avenues of comminications open without comming across as needy, clingy or overly hopeful.
Remember, the idea is to have a cool, calm tone.
That’s it! Just remember to hand write your letter. It’s much more personal and shows you have taken the time and care to write rather than simply blast off a text. A letter can also be carried around in a pocket to be read over again and again in a quiet moment. A letter says “personal” far more than any text message or phone call ever can.
This letter sets the stage for your next moves…
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